Here is what I would like you to do
1. Read “cunt: a declaration of independence” by Inga Muscio
2. Get empowered
3. Get enraged
4. Go fuck up some patriarchal, cunt-hating, rape culture, classist shit
5. High five a fellow cunt lover
“Never underestimate the huge middle finger you are giving to the world when you make peace with your body.”
(Source: bloodgutsandpussy)
Scan taken at the Alice Paul Institute (alicepaul.org)
“We grow up being told that anger is bad. Good girls do not express their anger, good girls play nice, they accommodate, they please. It is time we start looking at anger differently. Why are we so bent on suppressing this anger when for so many, it is the only emotion left in the face of injustice? Why should young women appear compliant and docile when they are obviously being subjected to violence or inequity? Why shouldn’t anger be a legitimate drive for our politics? Change will not come because we ask for permission, change will happen because we leave no other alternative.”
Flavia Dzodan, “Show them how to resist: Connecting girls, inspiring futures” at Tiger Beatdown (via morecoffee)
(Source: tigerbeatdown.com)
“Female toplessness is legal in a lot of places in the US (although not where I live), and I’d be meeting the letter of the law with a couple of Band-aids. But I have a gut feeling that if I go anywhere that there are people—and particularly anywhere there are children—nobody’s going to be too happy about my Band-aids. The enforcement is social; women just don’t go around topless in the US.
It bothers me because it’s unequal, but it also bothers me in its implications: that my body is inherently sexual, and a man’s body isn’t. It feels like men are being viewed through the first-person lens of “it’s nice to feel the sun on my skin, and I don’t mean anything by it” and women are being viewed through the distinctly third-person lens of “it’s inappropriate for me, a heterosexual man, to see her sexy parts.” It ignores the experiences of people who are turned on by male chests and somehow manage to contain themselves when they see one.”
Also I do not think men should be given cookies for writing Strong Female Characters. While it’s more enjoyable to read them I’m not going to stand on a chair and applaud men for doing what women have been doing (and living) for fucking ever.
RIDDLE ME THIS
I just don’t understand patriarchy apologists. I don’t. I don’t understand how most of the feminist debates I get into are with men. I don’t understand how people just don’t believe that women* (and especially women of color) are an oppressed class.
I don’t understand how rape culture is even debated when women can’t go outside without being catcalled, or have to fear for their safety when they are out past dark, or have their character and decision making and fashion sense called into question when they get assaulted.
I don’t understand how you think oppressive beauty standards are a myth when you see models airbrushed to scary, unreal proportions, when women are sold products to cover their pores and hide their wrinkles and make their eyes bigger and lips juicier and hair shinier, when girls develop eating disorders before puberty, when advertising largely shows women in submissive positions (often on the brink of an orgasm) and an entire facet of the magazine industry is built on telling women they need to lose ten pounds and fix their face and please their man.
I don’t understand how you think a level playing field exists when abortion is still illegal and dangerous in many countries, when FDA approved birth control is denied to women but Viagra isn’t to men, when women who take control of their reproductive health are shamed, when medical training focuses on male anatomy and physiology, and when periods are viewed as disgusting and unsanitary and something to be ashamed of.
I don’t understand how you think that women have “made it” when most major companies are controlled by men, when the amount of females represented in film and music and art is laughable, when women make up the vast majority of the world’s poor, when women don’t even hold a quarter of the seats in the US legislature, when it is men who decide when and how I can get birth control and an abortion, when women earned the right to vote and own property in recent memory, and when women still have to work their asses off to prove that they can be capable in any career field, but are still expected to be mothers and caretakers.
I don’t know what men lose by simply admitting that they are privileged. I’m really not sure why it is necessary to debate the existence of intersectional oppression. I am amazed that white cis men have the flaming audacity to even talk about “men’s rights” as if they do not have every single fucking advantage that could possibly be afforded to them. I don’t understand how you can have several generations of women telling you shit sucks and your response is to trivialize their experiences or deny their reality altogether.
dear feminist tumblrverse…
so i was having a discussion with a male friend about “men’s rights,” rape and other issues, and he brought up some points that i really didn’t know how to respond to. how would you address these issues?
- girls who lie about being raped to damage the guy in question, or in cases of “morning after regret” (personally i think this is bullshit and damaging to rape victims but i couldn’t figure out a way to debunk him)
- the whole “teach men not to rape campaign:” his take is that men don’t rape, rapists rape (he doesn’t really see rape as something normal guys are capable of). shouldn’t we be teaching murderers not to murder and muggers not to mug?
- men’s rights in cases of abortion: what about men who want to keep a child when the mother wants to abort it? or a man that is forced to pay child support for a baby that he would’ve aborted if the choice were his? (this one makes me question my pro-choice stance: the woman is the one who assumes all of the risks and repercussions of carrying the fetus for 9 months, but the father does have to live with the consequences as well…)
so clearly i’m not the best when it comes to debates. can any of you wonderful feminist folk help me out?
- I’m going to go ahead and say that the amount of women who lie about being rape vs the number of women who are actually raped/sexually assaulted is low, and people using the “She’s lying/she was asking for it/she just regretted it” is a way to shame victims and discredit women who actually go through that and feel violated.
- Men do a fuckload of raping (note: no good feminist will ever say that women are incapable of rape, or men can’t be raped). The point of the “teach men not to rape” campaign is that in our culture, it is largely the responsibility of women to not be raped (watch what you wear, what you drink, who you’re out with; did you have pepper spray? Were you in a “bad” neighborhood? etc etc) as opposed to the rapist not to rape. In our culture, we view rape as a “fact of life” that women can prevent as opposed to an act of violence perpetrated by rapists.
- Even if a man wants to keep a child, he has no right to demand that a woman be his incubator. [cissexual] Men will never bear the health or social burden of being pregnant. And men can forfeit their parental rights. That is an option.
Did any of that help?
1. Wrong.
2. Wrong.
3. While the first part may be true, there is to my knowledge no place in the United States, Canada, Australia or the UK where the latter is true. This is especially relevant when we consider that there are children, boys in the US who have been ordered to pay child support to their rapists, even when the very existence of a biological child is indisputable proof of statutory rape and the rapist has not been punished in any way.
1. Fuck you, that is not a reputable source because it was written in 1994, and no one said that women DON’T lie about being raped, but women (or any survivor) needs to be taken seriously when those accusations come up. Why is a rape victim told to provide proof that they were attacked? Furthermore, your bullshit “study” even states that the FBI reported (in the early nineties, Christ this is bad researching) that EIGHT percent of rape reports were unfounded. Did someone teach you math? Also, the “lack of matches” on DNA scans does not always mean that a rape or assault did not occur. Not all assaults are violent in nature. This whole thing you posted is so fucking full of victim-blaming and women-hating and shady data collection that it is fucking laughable that you posted it in the first place.
2. Don’t post fucking blog entries as verification of your claims. That is lazy. And feminists won’t ever say that vaginas can’t rape penises. If you want the definition changed, work for it instead of slamming dose poor widdo fragile feminists. Did you even read my fucking point on this? Men do most of the raping. I NEVER said females are incapable of it. “Rapist” is a gender neutral term.
3. Do a google search. Jesus H Christ. And the point was that men can’t force women to be their incubators for nine months because they do not bear the burden of being pregnant god it’s like you didn’t even read the damn post.
In short, fuck you and the men’s rights, women-hating, privileged fucking pony you rode in on. Asshole.
dear feminist tumblrverse…
so i was having a discussion with a male friend about “men’s rights,” rape and other issues, and he brought up some points that i really didn’t know how to respond to. how would you address these issues?
- girls who lie about being raped to damage the guy in question, or in cases of “morning after regret” (personally i think this is bullshit and damaging to rape victims but i couldn’t figure out a way to debunk him)
- the whole “teach men not to rape campaign:” his take is that men don’t rape, rapists rape (he doesn’t really see rape as something normal guys are capable of). shouldn’t we be teaching murderers not to murder and muggers not to mug?
- men’s rights in cases of abortion: what about men who want to keep a child when the mother wants to abort it? or a man that is forced to pay child support for a baby that he would’ve aborted if the choice were his? (this one makes me question my pro-choice stance: the woman is the one who assumes all of the risks and repercussions of carrying the fetus for 9 months, but the father does have to live with the consequences as well…)
so clearly i’m not the best when it comes to debates. can any of you wonderful feminist folk help me out?
- I’m going to go ahead and say that the amount of women who lie about being rape vs the number of women who are actually raped/sexually assaulted is low, and people using the “She’s lying/she was asking for it/she just regretted it” is a way to shame victims and discredit women who actually go through that and feel violated.
- Men do a fuckload of raping (note: no good feminist will ever say that women are incapable of rape, or men can’t be raped). The point of the “teach men not to rape” campaign is that in our culture, it is largely the responsibility of women to not be raped (watch what you wear, what you drink, who you’re out with; did you have pepper spray? Were you in a “bad” neighborhood? etc etc) as opposed to the rapist not to rape. In our culture, we view rape as a “fact of life” that women can prevent as opposed to an act of violence perpetrated by rapists.
- Even if a man wants to keep a child, he has no right to demand that a woman be his incubator. [cissexual] Men will never bear the health or social burden of being pregnant. And men can forfeit their parental rights. That is an option.
Did any of that help?
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